Gradually get rid of my limiting beliefs using three minute therapy. I think these two are really big.
To read more about three minute therapy check this post.
My First Limiting Belief - I can get it done quickly (later)
A. There is so much work to do. I have so much weight to lose. I must do it now.
B. I can lose this weight in a day or two. I can finish all the work in an hour or two. I can build social network easily and quickly. I can come up with brilliant business plan fast and easy. Everything can be done in short period of time.
C. So I will do everything later. I can just overeat and procrastinate now and do everything quickly later. It's going to be okay.
D. If I cannot do it quickly now, how the hell am I able to do it quickly later? And if people have to spend a lot of time doing these things, why can I enjoy the privilege of doing it quickly? I am not a superhero nor am I even a quick person. If I spend more time on a particular thing, I usually can do it better.
E. Many things require time and patience. If I can get it done quickly, great, I will do it. But if it requires time to stabilize and become habit, I will handle it with patience, one by one. I won't rush it and won't avoid it.
My Limiting Belief #2 - I should be guilty of being present
A. I went to a party or some kind of social gathering. The room is sometimes covered with silence. I feel the need to speak as much as possible or walk away or do something that will get rid of the awkwardness. Sometimes there's a slightest sign of rejection, boredom, or any negative energy. For example, people start talking about boring subject as if they have nothing to talk about.
B. My presence make people uncomfortable. I am boring. I cannot make them happy. I worthless and have nothing interesting to talk about. I make it boring. I am the cause of that silence.
C. I don't go to party. I don't socialize. I am sick. I have so much work. I don't like these people. I eat meal before mealtime so that I can say to people that I have already eaten and cannot go eat with them. I reject people before they reject me. I hide myself from people I know.
D. How the hell must it be me? In any social situation it takes two people in the conversation to be quiet for silence to arise. Why do I give that credit to myself and let my conversation partner slip from it? Where is it written as a rule that I must not be annoying? I am annoyed by people from time to time. My friend who is the most sociable person I have ever known is extremely annoying. As a human being, I have flaws and they might irritate people sometimes. I can never meet everybody's expectation. I have to let them learn about my flaws and accept it, just as I want to accept their flaws.
E. As a human being, I am always loved and welcomed. Actually people love me and welcome me, otherwise they won't invite me to join them in the first place. They want to talk and get in touch with me, no matter how I am. I know that because I want the same thing too!
Sunday, September 14, 2008
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